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personal/interpersonal skills/Difficult Conversations.md

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 When faced with the time to pick a topic, there are a few common mistakes:
 - Picking an easier topic over the hard topic: It's natural to have a bias to choose a topic you think you can win with. That usually means picking an easier topic than the root issue.
 - Choosing a more recent event over the most important one: We tend to focus on the most recent event or behavior rather than the one that matters the most. This often happens because you remember recent events more clearly, and you don't want to be accused of "dredging up ancient history".
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-	Making these mistakes can lead to fairly predictable results: you end up having the wrong conversation and not addressing the actual issue
+Making these mistakes can lead to fairly predictable results: you end up having the wrong conversation and not addressing the actual issue. A few ways ways to identify that you're having the wrong conversation include:
+- Your emotions escalate: When you're having the wrong conversation, even if the conversation is going well, you'll probably begin to notice frustration building as the conversation progresses, because there's something important that needs to be addressed.
+- You walk away sp
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