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 ## Transitioning from codependency to interdependency
 The transition from a codependent relationship to an interdependent relationship can be uncomfortable and unsettling. It will involve working to improve both individually and as a whole.
 
-One way to begin the process would be by opening a channel of communication about the subject. Try to talk about the state of dependency in your relation
+One way to begin the process would be by opening a channel of communication about the subject. Try to talk about the state of dependency in your relationship.
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+- Recognize your own behaviors that contribute to codependence in your relationship, then try to take responsibility for changing them.
+- Make a list of what makes *you* happy. Not you as a couple, just *you*. Discuss in a kind and open way, and allow your partner to ask questions freely. Define why these activities are enjoyable, and how they can benefit the relationship.
+- Find your inner "no". There's a fine line between trying to enjoy and support your partner's interests, and feeling like you *must* do what they want all the time. It's OK to say no to things. (<https://psychcentral.com/lib/learning-to-say-no>)
+- Practice making your own choices, without the feedback or permission of your partner.
+- *Make a concerted effort to spend time with friends outside the relationship.*
 
 <https://psychcentral.com/lib/codependency-vs-interdependency>
-## Further reading:
-Articles:
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+## Books
+(Therapist recommended)
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+Recommended authors:
+- John Gottman
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+Recommended books