From 7757f8f63959223adbd3ea4b8dd7587353f765da Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: zleyyij <75810274+zleyyij@users.noreply.github.com> Date: Fri, 28 Jun 2024 11:47:26 -0600 Subject: [PATCH] vault backup: 2024-06-28 11:47:26 --- personal/mental health/Relationships.md | 18 ++++++++++++++---- 1 file changed, 14 insertions(+), 4 deletions(-) diff --git a/personal/mental health/Relationships.md b/personal/mental health/Relationships.md index 1cbc20b..1f997a5 100644 --- a/personal/mental health/Relationships.md +++ b/personal/mental health/Relationships.md @@ -33,9 +33,19 @@ Codependency can happen slowly, over time, without either person realizing it. W ## Transitioning from codependency to interdependency The transition from a codependent relationship to an interdependent relationship can be uncomfortable and unsettling. It will involve working to improve both individually and as a whole. -One way to begin the process would be by opening a channel of communication about the subject. Try to talk about the state of dependency in your relation +One way to begin the process would be by opening a channel of communication about the subject. Try to talk about the state of dependency in your relationship. + +- Recognize your own behaviors that contribute to codependence in your relationship, then try to take responsibility for changing them. +- Make a list of what makes *you* happy. Not you as a couple, just *you*. Discuss in a kind and open way, and allow your partner to ask questions freely. Define why these activities are enjoyable, and how they can benefit the relationship. +- Find your inner "no". There's a fine line between trying to enjoy and support your partner's interests, and feeling like you *must* do what they want all the time. It's OK to say no to things. () +- Practice making your own choices, without the feedback or permission of your partner. +- *Make a concerted effort to spend time with friends outside the relationship.* -## Further reading: -Articles: -- +## Books +(Therapist recommended) + +Recommended authors: +- John Gottman + +Recommended books \ No newline at end of file