From f0ca8b565393787a844b5c4d8dc0f61538f59cef Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: zleyyij <75810274+zleyyij@users.noreply.github.com> Date: Sat, 13 Jul 2024 22:55:57 -0600 Subject: [PATCH] vault backup: 2024-07-13 22:55:57 --- personal/mental health/Relationships.md | 8 +++++++- 1 file changed, 7 insertions(+), 1 deletion(-) diff --git a/personal/mental health/Relationships.md b/personal/mental health/Relationships.md index 4076f60..47c57b5 100644 --- a/personal/mental health/Relationships.md +++ b/personal/mental health/Relationships.md @@ -7,6 +7,12 @@ If you consider your relationships with the people around you as a set of concen To grow closer to people, it takes time, slowly opening up and building trust. +# The R.A.M Model +The Relationship Attachment Model was developed as a way to understand how relationships should grow to become a healthy, stable relationship. + +The broad premise looks somewhat like this: +1. **Know**: You should know someone above all else, and knowing them should come first. +2. (()) # Codependency vs Interdependency In an *interdependent relationship*, both people can be independent, healthy, human beings. @@ -77,7 +83,7 @@ One way that we build trust in a relationship is by taking accountability for ou It's hard as human beings to recognize just how much we don't have control over. -If you self identify as a responsible person, it can lead to you beginning to take responsibility for other people's thoughts and feelings. This is common among anxious people. You can be *over-responsible*. Thinking we can change other people can lead to burnout. The over-responsible mindset calls for people to bend over backwards. +If you self identify as a responsible person, it can lead to you beginning to take responsibility for other people's thoughts and feelings. This is common among anxious people. You can be *over-responsible*. Thinking we can change other people can lead to burnout. The over-responsible mindset calls for people to bend over backwards. Remember to understand that other people are autonomous individuals, and their thoughts, feelings, and actions are not your responsibility. Don't let your perception of your *circle of control* expand beyond what it actually contains. # Books (Therapist recommended)