From ed8b65aa2b401eb4db43a4c0d4957b1d78736f00 Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: zleyyij <75810274+zleyyij@users.noreply.github.com> Date: Wed, 17 Jul 2024 16:54:20 -0600 Subject: [PATCH] vault backup: 2024-07-17 16:54:20 --- personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md | 4 +++- 1 file changed, 3 insertions(+), 1 deletion(-) diff --git a/personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md b/personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md index 729dbb7..39d7a12 100644 --- a/personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md +++ b/personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md @@ -38,4 +38,6 @@ While only one of these options reliably leads to an effective outcome, you'll o If you fail to discuss these issues with other people, *those issues will become the lens through which you see them*, which will show up in the way you treat the other person. -We generally handle important conversations *poorly*, strong emotions make people worse at communicating effectively, not better. Our natural instincts are to push back against that communication because it's hard, and it triggers our fight or flight instincts. This means we won't be receptive to new information, and we'll likely respond in a way that's not irrational and hurts the situation for both parties. It usually takes conscious effort to be mindful of your thoughts and feelings, listen to them fully and rationally, then respond in a rational way, \ No newline at end of file +We generally handle important conversations *poorly*, strong emotions make people worse at communicating effectively, not better. Our natural instincts are to push back against that communication because it's hard, and it triggers our fight or flight instincts. This means we won't be receptive to new information, and we'll likely respond in a way that's not irrational and hurts the situation for both parties. It usually takes conscious effort to be mindful of your thoughts and feelings, process them fully and rationally, then respond to the other party in a rational way. + +*personal note*: When we get emotional, the *limbic system* in our brain begins to take control. We stop being rational, and we literally do not process things with \ No newline at end of file