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By being in control of when and how the issue is brought up, resentment doesn't build and the conversation can go smoothly. If the other person has questions, that's *OK*, and answering them may help the other person better understand where you're coming from, but you are not required to provide a justification to explain your boundaries. You might even find it productive to ask followup questions to make sure they understand, maybe ask if the request seems unfair, or unusual, or see if the request conflicts with one of their needs. By being in control of when and how the issue is brought up, resentment doesn't build and the conversation can go smoothly. If the other person has questions, that's *OK*, and answering them may help the other person better understand where you're coming from, but you are not required to provide a justification to explain your boundaries. You might even find it productive to ask followup questions to make sure they understand, maybe ask if the request seems unfair, or unusual, or see if the request conflicts with one of their needs.
Setting and enforcing boundaries will require accepting the limits of our control, and releasing the illusions of control that keep us stuck in unchanging situations. It might mean respecting our needs enough to *make a hard choice to protect them*. Setting and enforcing boundaries will require accepting the limits of our control, and releasing the illusions of control that keep us stuck in unchanging situations. It might mean respecting our needs enough to *make a hard choice to protect them*.
It's important to understand that boundaries are not "an eye for an eye". Just because one person in a relationship defines a boundary, doesn't mean that the other person needs to have that same boundary. In a healthy relationship, you may have boundaries that the other person may not have, and vice versa.
## Feeling Safe ## Feeling Safe
If you don't feel safe physically, mentally, and emotionally, it can be difficult to set and hold boundaries. Even if your lack of stability isn't directly caused by the relationship (lack of sleep, conflict from work, existential issues), it can still impact your ability to hold healthy boundaries. If you don't feel safe physically, mentally, and emotionally, it can be difficult to set and hold boundaries. Even if your lack of stability isn't directly caused by the relationship (lack of sleep, conflict from work, existential issues), it can still impact your ability to hold healthy boundaries.

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Healthy relationships are an essential part of being human, romantic *or* platonic. Healthy relationships are an essential part of being human, romantic *or* platonic.
# Skills
There are a few skills that can massively contribute to a healthy relationship. It takes work and practice to refine them.
## Putting your feelings in the words
# Balance # Balance
As human beings, we need variety in social interactions. Not even necessarily variety in the amount of different people, but variety in the types and facets of people, and our relationship to them. If we don't have that variety, and instead begin to rely on one person too much to fulfill all of our social needs, it can create a dependance on that person, and create an unhealthy relationship with them. As human beings, we need variety in social interactions. Not even necessarily variety in the amount of different people, but variety in the types and facets of people, and our relationship to them. If we don't have that variety, and instead begin to rely on one person too much to fulfill all of our social needs, it can create a dependance on that person, and create an unhealthy relationship with them.