diff --git a/personal/mental health/Boundaries.md b/personal/mental health/Boundaries.md index 609627e..0d78fbf 100644 --- a/personal/mental health/Boundaries.md +++ b/personal/mental health/Boundaries.md @@ -11,10 +11,14 @@ If you are prone to people-pleasing, fear of disappointing others may make you f Practicing self compassion and working with a therapist can help strengthen your relationship. A therapist can also provide healing experiences that can assist you in setting and holding boundaries. -## Demanding You Change Back' +## Demanding You Change Back Change can create anxiety in our lives, so it's normal for people to feel emotional about the setting of new boundaries. It's important to understand that they are not necessarily reacting because the change you are making is bad or wrong, rather they are uncomfortable because you are inviting them into new, and unknown territory. -You can validate another person's anxiety or other emotions such as hurt, frustration, or disappointment, but *you do not need to own those feelings*. Pull them closer to help them regain balance, but understand that *its* +You can validate another person's anxiety or other emotions such as hurt, frustration, or disappointment, but *you do not need to own those feelings*. Pull them closer to help them regain balance, but understand that *it is not your responsibility to hold them up*. They might fall down as they find their way again, but if they refuse to get back up, it's not on you. + +Healthy boundaries can dramatically improve relationships and wellbeing. You must stay true to yourself, and be prepared to let go of those who won't adapt to the boundaries you set. + +## Setting an example # Resources https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-truth-about-boundaries/ \ No newline at end of file