From d3af9b5fbff67b127ecda0996e6d8019fa6a482d Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: zleyyij <75810274+zleyyij@users.noreply.github.com> Date: Wed, 17 Jul 2024 13:44:20 -0600 Subject: [PATCH] vault backup: 2024-07-17 13:44:20 --- personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md | 15 +++++++++++++-- personal/mental health/Relationships.md | 9 --------- 2 files changed, 13 insertions(+), 11 deletions(-) diff --git a/personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md b/personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md index 3d95608..21d54f5 100644 --- a/personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md +++ b/personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md @@ -1,3 +1,14 @@ -# Understanding **must** precede advice -When beginning a conversation, the goal should be understanding, not problem solving. You should aim to make sure there's a *mutual understanding* of the situation before attempting to problem solve. Problem solving and advice should *only* begin when both people feel totally understood, and heard. \ No newline at end of file +## Understanding **must** precede advice +When beginning a conversation, the goal should be understanding, not problem solving. You should aim to make sure there's a *mutual understanding* of the situation before attempting to problem solve. Problem solving and advice should *only* begin when both people feel totally understood, and heard. + + +# Skills +There are a few skills that can massively contribute to a healthy relationship. It takes work and practice to refine them. +## Putting Your Feelings into Words +When people are able to find the right images, phrases, metaphors, and words to adequately describe our feelings, there's a kind of "resolution" that comes of it, an easing of tension. In conversation, focusing on finding the right way to explain your feelings can make the conversation more intimate, and more productive, because you can convey your feelings to the other person in a more impactful way. + +## Asking Open-Ended Questions +The ability to ask open ended questions can help the other person explore their feelings by asking open-ended questions. This can be done by asking targeted questions, looking to understand their feelings about something, and by making specific statements that encourage the other person to expand on a statement further. +## Expressing Empathy +Empathy *is not easy*. In a difficult conversation, it's important to try to learn more about, explore, and learn more about another person's thoughts, feelings, and needs. Empathy communicates to the other \ No newline at end of file diff --git a/personal/mental health/Relationships.md b/personal/mental health/Relationships.md index c2bc5d8..afbae4b 100644 --- a/personal/mental health/Relationships.md +++ b/personal/mental health/Relationships.md @@ -1,14 +1,5 @@ Healthy relationships are an essential part of being human, romantic *or* platonic. -# Skills -There are a few skills that can massively contribute to a healthy relationship. It takes work and practice to refine them. -## Putting Your Feelings into Words -When people are able to find the right images, phrases, metaphors, and words to adequately describe our feelings, there's a kind of "resolution" that comes of it, an easing of tension. In conversation, focusing on finding the right way to explain your feelings can make the conversation more intimate, and more productive, because you can convey your feelings to the other person in a more impactful way. - -## Asking Open-Ended Questions -The ability to ask open ended questions can help the other person explore their feelings by asking open-ended questions. This can be done by asking targeted questions, looking to understand their feelings about something, and by making specific statements that encourage the other person to expand on a statement further. -## Expressing Empathy -Empathy *is not easy*. # The R.A.M Model The Relationship Attachment Model is one way to understand how relationships should grow to become a healthy, stable relationship.