From ca62f4534e85ea0808c3f25215e899f75516fe08 Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: zleyyij <75810274+zleyyij@users.noreply.github.com> Date: Wed, 17 Jul 2024 13:49:20 -0600 Subject: [PATCH] vault backup: 2024-07-17 13:49:20 --- personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md | 4 +--- 1 file changed, 1 insertion(+), 3 deletions(-) diff --git a/personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md b/personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md index 21d54f5..00037f9 100644 --- a/personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md +++ b/personal/mental health/Difficult Conversations.md @@ -1,8 +1,6 @@ ## Understanding **must** precede advice When beginning a conversation, the goal should be understanding, not problem solving. You should aim to make sure there's a *mutual understanding* of the situation before attempting to problem solve. Problem solving and advice should *only* begin when both people feel totally understood, and heard. - - # Skills There are a few skills that can massively contribute to a healthy relationship. It takes work and practice to refine them. ## Putting Your Feelings into Words @@ -11,4 +9,4 @@ When people are able to find the right images, phrases, metaphors, and words to ## Asking Open-Ended Questions The ability to ask open ended questions can help the other person explore their feelings by asking open-ended questions. This can be done by asking targeted questions, looking to understand their feelings about something, and by making specific statements that encourage the other person to expand on a statement further. ## Expressing Empathy -Empathy *is not easy*. In a difficult conversation, it's important to try to learn more about, explore, and learn more about another person's thoughts, feelings, and needs. Empathy communicates to the other \ No newline at end of file +Empathy *is not easy*. In a difficult conversation, it's important to try to learn more about, explore, and learn more about another person's thoughts, feelings, and needs. Empathy communicates to the other person that their thoughts, feelings, and needs make sense to you, and that you understand them. It doesn't necessarily mean you agree, but it means showing them that their perception of the situation is valid. You can have your own perception of the situation that's different from theirs, but both of your perceptions can be valid. \ No newline at end of file