diff --git a/personal/mental health/Boundaries.md b/personal/mental health/Boundaries.md index 25b2333..d7c345f 100644 --- a/personal/mental health/Boundaries.md +++ b/personal/mental health/Boundaries.md @@ -31,11 +31,15 @@ A boundary is only meaningful *if you enforce it*. In the above example, that wo When we set a boundary, we are making it clear what *our* actions will be. Therefore, boundaries are more enforceable, and the outcome is within our control. -If we make a request and the other party is unwilling or unable to meet it, you *must* accept their answer. You cannot force something from someone who is unable or unwilling to give more. Don't give into the illusion that +If we make a request and the other party is unwilling or unable to meet it, you *must* accept their answer. You cannot force something from someone who is unable or unwilling to give more. Don't give into the illusion that if we ask a *17th time*, then they'll give in and become receptive to our needs. +At this point, we have two choices. +1. We can accept that *in this circumsta* ## Ultimatum +## Having questions + # Resources https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-truth-about-boundaries/ https://www.gottman.com/blog/requests-vs-boundaries-vs-ultimatums-the-ultimate-guide/ \ No newline at end of file