diff --git a/personal/mental health/Cognitive behavior triangle.md b/personal/mental health/Cognitive behavior triangle.md index 69be67c..d794e95 100644 --- a/personal/mental health/Cognitive behavior triangle.md +++ b/personal/mental health/Cognitive behavior triangle.md @@ -9,7 +9,9 @@ The levels of responsibility: 2. Responsibility -> Played a role in the event, but didn't intend the outcome -> Regret 3. Fault/blameworthiness -> Intended harm; intended the outcome -> Guilt -# The ABC Worksheet +# The ABC Model +The ABC model is a way to break the processing of feelings down into discrete steps. It involves identifying an activating event, the belief that stems from that event, and the feelings that stem from that belief. + 1. Activating event: "*Something happens*" - What was the thing that happened 2. Believe/Stuck point: "*I tell myself something*" diff --git a/personal/mental health/Relationships.md b/personal/mental health/Relationships.md index 47c57b5..e9605e5 100644 --- a/personal/mental health/Relationships.md +++ b/personal/mental health/Relationships.md @@ -12,7 +12,10 @@ The Relationship Attachment Model was developed as a way to understand how relat The broad premise looks somewhat like this: 1. **Know**: You should know someone above all else, and knowing them should come first. -2. (()) +2. **Trust**: After you know them, you can begin to trust them, but you should never trust someone more than you understand them. +3. **Rely**: After trust is developed, you can begin to understand and meet each other's needs. You should not rely on someone more than you trust them. +4. **Commit**: You should not commit to a relationship more than you're willing to let the other person rely on you. +5. **Touch**: To build a deep relationship with an individual, physical intimacy should not be put before commitment, trust, or anything above. # Codependency vs Interdependency In an *interdependent relationship*, both people can be independent, healthy, human beings.