From 6c4d80b2a25032a97fecdc2be1d76441ce3b1a3e Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: zleyyij <75810274+zleyyij@users.noreply.github.com> Date: Sat, 13 Jul 2024 23:05:57 -0600 Subject: [PATCH] vault backup: 2024-07-13 23:05:57 --- personal/mental health/Mindfulness.md | 4 ++++ personal/mental health/Relationships.md | 3 ++- 2 files changed, 6 insertions(+), 1 deletion(-) diff --git a/personal/mental health/Mindfulness.md b/personal/mental health/Mindfulness.md index 41a056a..6cdc888 100644 --- a/personal/mental health/Mindfulness.md +++ b/personal/mental health/Mindfulness.md @@ -4,7 +4,11 @@ Rather than self identifying with thoughts or feelings, and saying "I'm feeling One way to visualize this is by thinking of your state of being as a chessboard. The thoughts and feelings are moving on that chessboard, and you are aware of them, but the chessboard is separate, and it is not +It's important to understand that thoughts are not always accurate, and thoughts are not always reliable. Especially when emotionally charged, the *limbic system* in your brain can activate, and make your thoughts + In life, we don't want to operate out of fear. When we are fearful, we don't make the best decisions, especially long term decisions. + + # Exercises ## A.C.E (Dropping anchor) This exercise is a form of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). It's useful for handling difficult thoughts, feelings, emotions, memories, urges, and sensations more effectively. It can help engage in life, grounding you in difficult situations. It can be used to disrupt rumination, obsession, or worrying, and it will help you engage in the task or activity on hand. diff --git a/personal/mental health/Relationships.md b/personal/mental health/Relationships.md index e9605e5..7f70a24 100644 --- a/personal/mental health/Relationships.md +++ b/personal/mental health/Relationships.md @@ -15,7 +15,8 @@ The broad premise looks somewhat like this: 2. **Trust**: After you know them, you can begin to trust them, but you should never trust someone more than you understand them. 3. **Rely**: After trust is developed, you can begin to understand and meet each other's needs. You should not rely on someone more than you trust them. 4. **Commit**: You should not commit to a relationship more than you're willing to let the other person rely on you. -5. **Touch**: To build a deep relationship with an individual, physical intimacy should not be put before commitment, trust, or anything above. +5. **Touch**: To build a deep relationship with an individual, physical intimacy should not be put before commitment, trust, or anything above. This does not mean that those things are a requirement for physical intimacy to take place, but it does mean they should be taken into consideration if you are trying to develop a deeper relationship with an individual. + # Codependency vs Interdependency In an *interdependent relationship*, both people can be independent, healthy, human beings.