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 What are some things you could say to yourself instead that are more helpful or realistic?
 
 
+# Books
+(Therapist recommended)
+
+Don't Feed the Monkey Mind - Jennifer Shannon
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 Going against the status quo is difficult, but the outcome can often times be good. It will require pushing into discomfort.
 
 # The Circles of Control
+One important aspect of mental health is understanding the level of control and influence you have on the people around you. This isn't necessarily about being a controlling individual, it also encompasses the broader aspects of every relationship you make with people. 
+
 A lot of things are outside of our control. Do not confuse what's within your control, and what's outside of your control. 
 
 Imagine 3 concentric circles
-- The circle of concern (outermost)
+- *The circle of concern* (outermost)
 	- Things like the weather, geopolitics, traffic, natural disasters, war
 	- These are things that can affect us, but there's nothing we can do as an individual to change them, so we need to learn to adapt.
-- The circle of influence (middle circle)
+- *The circle of influence* (middle circle)
 	- Friends, family, job.
 	- Things that are immediate to us, where we have some level of influence. The things you do and say can have an impact. You have influence, you don't have *control.* This is a two way road, other people can influence you, and you can influence them.
-- The circle of control (inner circle)
+- *The circle of control* (inner circle)
 	- yourself, your actions.
 	- How are you showing up to situations, how are you responding to certain situations. You can't control your thoughts or the types of thoughts, but you can control how much power those thoughts and feelings have over you.
 
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 It's hard as human beings to recognize just how much we don't have control over.
 
+If you self identify as a responsible person, it can lead to you beginning to take responsibility for other people's thoughts and feelings. This is common among anxious people. You can be *over-responsible*. Thinking we can change other people can lead to burnout. The over-responsible mindset calls for people to bend over backwards.
 # Books
 (Therapist recommended)