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Date: Fri, 28 Jun 2024 11:52:26 -0600
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 Healthy relationships are an essential part of being human, romantic *or* platonic.
 
+# Balance
+As human beings, we need variety in social interactions. Not even necessarily variety in the amount of different people, but variety in the types and facets of people, and our relationship to them. If we don't have that variety, and instead begin to rely on one person too much to fulfill all of our social needs, it can create a dependance on that person, and create an unhealthy relationship with them.
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+If you consider your relationships with the people around you as a set
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+To grow closer to people, it takes time, slowly opening up and building trust. 
+
 # Codependency vs Interdependency
 
 In an *interdependent relationship*, both people can be independent, healthy, human beings.
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 Recommended authors:
 - John Gottman
 
-Recommended books
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+Recommended books:
+- Hold Me Tight - Sue Johnson
+- The New Co-Dependency - Melody Beattie
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-If a negative experience ends on a slightly positive note, you'll often remember it as a positive experience.
 
-As human beings, we need variety in social interactions. Not even variety in the amount people, but variety in the types and facets of people. If we don't have that variety, it can create a dependance on that person, and create a sense of frustration because they can't do everything. To grow closer to people, it takes time, slowly opening up and building trust. 
 
 Recognize for yourself, is the status quo good or healthy? Going against it might be difficult, but the outcome is good.
 # Decisional Balance
 This can be helpful when faced with a difficult choice between two options, being caught in ambivalence. 
 
-# Co-dependance vs Inter-dependance
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-in an inter-dependant relationship, both people can be independant, healthy, human beings, in a codependent relationship, you start subsuming other, and it can develop into a lack of identity, rage, and frustration.
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-John Gottman and Sue Johnson (hold me tight)
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-The new co-dependency -Melanie Baitie
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