From 02b3323e7a4b99ef0295cccb5722489b632be17a Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: zleyyij <75810274+zleyyij@users.noreply.github.com> Date: Wed, 17 Jul 2024 09:53:18 -0600 Subject: [PATCH] vault backup: 2024-07-17 09:53:18 --- personal/mental health/Boundaries.md | 12 ++++++++++-- 1 file changed, 10 insertions(+), 2 deletions(-) diff --git a/personal/mental health/Boundaries.md b/personal/mental health/Boundaries.md index d7c345f..a2eae7a 100644 --- a/personal/mental health/Boundaries.md +++ b/personal/mental health/Boundaries.md @@ -34,9 +34,17 @@ When we set a boundary, we are making it clear what *our* actions will be. There If we make a request and the other party is unwilling or unable to meet it, you *must* accept their answer. You cannot force something from someone who is unable or unwilling to give more. Don't give into the illusion that if we ask a *17th time*, then they'll give in and become receptive to our needs. At this point, we have two choices. -1. We can accept that *in this circumsta* -## Ultimatum +1. We can accept that *in this circumstance*, their behavior is unchanging, and that our needs are not met. This means staying in that situation. +2. We can set a boundary. +When setting a boundary, you can ask yourself, "How willing am I to be with this person who is unable or unwilling to meet this need?" +If a person regularly hurts you and has been unreceptive to our requests to stop, it will create distance and space, or might end the relationship entirely. If a person regularly fails to meet your needs after you've clearly communicated them and given them time to change, you can set a boundary that acknowledges that the relationship is not working in its current state, and take space from it or end it. +## Ultimatum +You might find yourself asking, "What's the difference between a boundary and an ultimatum?" + +The line between the two is rather blurry, and it might be hard to quantify in a meaningful way. + +However, the main distinction comes from the fact that a boundary is about our own limits, and an ultimatum is designed to c ## Having questions