notes/personal/mental health/Untitled.md

If a negative experience ends on a slightly positive note, you'll often remember it as a positive experience.

As human beings, we need variety in social interactions. Not even variety in the amount people, but variety in the types and facets of people. If we don't have that variety, it can create a dependance on that person, and create a sense of frustration because they can't do everything. To grow closer to people, it takes time, slowly opening up and building trust. 

Recognize for yourself, is the status quo good or healthy? Going against it might be difficult, but the outcome is good.
# Decisional Balance
This can be helpful when faced with a difficult choice between two options, being caught in ambivalence. 

# Co-dependance vs Inter-dependance

in an inter-dependant relationship, both people can be independant, healthy, human beings, in a codependent relationship, you start subsuming other, and it can develop into a lack of identity, rage, and frustration.

John Gottman and Sue Johnson (hold me tight)

The new co-dependency -Melanie Baitie

| __              | Pros | Cons |
| --------------- | ---- | ---- |
| Making a change |      |      |
| Not changing    |      |      |